Welcome to Homemaking Monday!
Today I'd like to share with you about loving your husband.
In our world now feminism and the worship of self has become so prevalent that women have been lured from their godly roles, and their respect for their husbands.
We need only look to one source: the Bible, to find out what is honourable.
We need to turn off the world and it's phyco-babble and seriously consider what God has to say on this subject.
First of all when we get married, we are no longer just "individuals" we become one flesh with our husbands. Of course not physically one person, but intimately so.
We need to consider our husbands as we would ourselves and look to meet their needs we would our own. This is as basic as taking into consideration what those needs are. I would encourage any wife to take some time and write these down. What does he like to eat? What does he like to wear? How does he like his laundry done? What does he like to listen to? Where does he like to spend time? How does he like you to dress? or wear your hair? How would he like your children to behave?
What makes him smile?
The list can go on.....but write it out, set it before you and consider the needs of your husband. Then start thinking of how you can meet them. It's good to do this from time to time.
One other note that I'd like to make regarding meeting his needs is this.
One of the most major issues in marriages is this...adultery and fornication.
You can read about this sin extensively in scripture...and if you look around you it's prevalent in all facets of society. So give attention to this detail in your marriages as well.
1 Corinthians 7:3-4
The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife.
Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency."
Ephesians 5: 22-24
For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.
Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing."
Now this is one major way that we as wives can love our husbands:
in our submitting to their role of head of our homes.
God didn't make us their bosses! He made us their helpmeets.
"And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him."
Now this doesn't mean that we are their slaves...it means that in our roles we are blessed with the ability to work at meeting their needs. To work beside them to accomplish what needs to be done, to parent our children, to care for our homes, and to show the world the honour of the home and the role God gave us to fill.
This is seen clearly when we give our input on certain concerns/ needs and we allow our husbands to lead, and to make the final decisions. We allow our husbands to lay boundaries for us and our children, and to provide us with what is necessary for us to manage the home.
The Bible says that wives are to submit, and be subject to our husbands in EVERY THING. Not just the things we feel they should, or that we agree with.
Is this easy? No. But it is what we are called to do. So the next time you start "telling" your husband what to do, or planning things without consulting him, take a step back. Is it just your pride speaking? are you showing a rebellious spirit towards your husband?
Consult your husband, let him lead.
Yes, at times you need to bite your tongue and apologize for being over bearing.
The world tells women to stand up for themselves and to be leaders....we are called to be followers in the home and to let our husbands lead. Yes there are things we do in managing our homes and the children, but this is not what I'm talking about here.
It's about giving our husbands the responsibility of watching over, protecting, and providing for our homes and families.
If we need a new "something", we don't just go out and buy one and give hime the bill.
If our husband says we need to NOT go to a certain outing or group...we stay home.
If we have a need, we go to him and not just seek to fill it on our own.
I think earring money at home is ok to a point...it must not usurp or shame our husbands role of provider. We need to learn to live within the means that our husbands provide for us.
For years I heard of women wearing the pants in the family...and at first I thought it was a joke.
Oh dear ladies....it's not.
I used to work outside the home and I was lured by the "you make the money...you decide how it's spent" talk that was around me. Just tell your husband this is how it is. The idea that I knew better then him so I could take his place in making decisions.
How disrespectful! I have to admit that I am ashamed at how I behaved at times toward my husband and needed to seek forgiveness. I praise God that my husband is a forgiving and loving man!
Ephesians 5: 33
"Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband."
Here we see that a wife is to reverence her husband. Meaning an act of respect.
When we respect our husbands as the head of our home, and in authority over us. We find a comfortable safety in their covering over us. When we respect them personally for what they like and follow their wishes, we earn their trust.
In loving our husbands as we are called to, we find the role of helpmeet to be just as it should be... a wonderful place of peace. Just as it is when we submit to the Lord Jesus and He covers us with His love and forgiveness.
Don't let the world steal this from you! God knows best. Love your husbands, consider their needs and then consider what you are able to do to meet them.
Proverbs 31: 11-12
Love and Prayers,